Three Important Things
I played Christmas songs on the piano today. Yes, it’s April, but Christmas music is my go-to for relaxing music. That and Clementi Sonatinas. I teach piano but I haven’t sat down to play for pure enjoyment in a long time.
A friend emailed me last week and listed 3 things she was doing for herself. Then she asked what I was doing for me. Now before we get all excited about how wise and wonderful this friend is (she is), know that she was really throwing my own words back in my face.
I’m big into self-care. It’s important. Our own oxygen masks must go on first. Especially at this level of the game. My back is a mess. My marriage needs attention. I can’t even think about Liam leaving in less than two years without getting teary.
For the most part I do a good job taking care of myself and sometimes border on being indulgent in the name of mental health. I have a few friends that I connect with on a regular basis. We do life together. I sing in a choir. I did yoga before my back blew out and there I learned how to breathe. Apparently I didn’t know how to do that.
The biggest part of self-care for me in this moment is my health. My body takes a beating with Aidan. It just does and it needs to last for a long time. I’ve temporarily changed my diet (oh cheese and butter and cream how I miss you!), am seeing three different specialists, and bought myself a bunch of massage times. I’m not messing around. Garreth and I have bodies broken in the same way. How adorably matchy- matchy is that? We’re so cute. He suggested we get t-shirts – “We went into Parenthood and all we got were two busted discs.”
I’m remembering the early days of Aidan’s life when I had to remind myself to go live life. Our days could easily be consumed with medical care and therapy appointments and sometimes we just had to ditch it all and go to the beach. Which reminds me, I haven’t been to the beach this winter either. I need to do a better job being purposeful with my time.
Let this be a call to action, especially for those bogged down in the early days of parenting, or the medical needs of a child, or the intensity of a personal crisis. All of those very important tasks and people who need you can wait a bit. We were never meant to go it alone and if we give until we break then everyone loses.
So what three things are you doing for yourself this week?