More Food for Thought
Ok- I’m sure to offend someone with this post so let me just start by saying this is just my opinion and it’s sort of messy and grey, as I believe are most things in life.
I’ve been reading about and thinking about the idea of our “broken” children. My knee jerk reaction is that Aidan is most certainly not broken, he’s just different. I still feel that way, somewhat. It’s a loaded word, one I wouldn’t use in front of him nor when I need to be his cheerleader. At the same time, come on, I get it, he’s broken. Let’s not overlook the obvious. He can’t walk, he can’t talk, his brain can’t even get through the day without a monstrous lightening storm. That’s broken. Aidan’s body does not work the way it’s meant to. To deny that would negate his (and my) hard work. Aidan’s achievements take a village and whole lot of effort.
However, here’s the important part: Aidan being broken in no way means that he should be less valued. This is the balance. We need to call the situation what it is and then cherish, appreciate and find beauty in his brokenness. Because all of this is very murky, I reserve the right to my knee jerk reaction until I muddle through and find myself somewhere in the middle being honest.
The truth is, Aidan is broken. He’s also the most perfect and precious Aidan Bowie there is.
P.S. If this post got your knickers in a twist and you still want more food for thought, take a deep breath and read here. While this dad refers to his daughter as broken, he also calls her a monster-slayer. There is great victory in that.