In the Beginning-Part Two
Update Week 2
Heather and Garreth and Baby Aidan are moving to the regular Pediatrics floor for his care. This is good because it “de-intensifies” his care and Heather and Garreth’s experience as well. There’s a lot more room up there and one of them can sleep in his room. They’re still working hard on a diagnosis at this point.
YaYa Juliette the doctor
Did you know that once a baby leaves the NICU they are “dirty babies”, meaning, they’ve left the most protected environment and are now open to the cooties of the world? And did you know there’s a real/pretend thing as Wimpy White Boy Syndrome? The nurses told us that sometimes male caucasion babies take awhile to get their get up and go on even though there’s nothing particularly wrong. Make of it what you will but we were hoping for that one.
Some time during the first two weeks, our pastor and his wife came to visit us and took us out to lunch. We really like and respect them but I think I cried my guts out that night. Doesn’t a visit from the pastor mean someone’s gonna die? Our NICU neighbor was given last rites by his priest before an operation. The baby lived, so while that debunked my theory, well, it’s all based on emotion anyway. Garreth and I were at very different places in our faith at that point. Garreth was much more willing to receive strength and comfort from God while I was shaking my fist at Him, telling Him that Aidan would live because I said so. That was just the reality of my journey.
Around this time, Garreth’s sister Sonya flew over from England, leaving her two young children to help us. She stayed with us at the Ronald McDonald House and watched Liam. It was so wonderful to have another pair of hands and to know Liam was surrounded by family. Liam spent those first months shuffled between my parents, sister, and my friends. We were so fortunate that he was such an easy going toddler. YaYa Sue even took him on a family vacation where he got sick. She didn’t return him. She just took care of him.
I don’t remember exactly what was going on with Aidan medically, except that he wasn’t breathing well on his own, hadn’t started to nurse, and had been visited by lots of doctors who said, hhmmmm….
*This is the story of Aidan’s first few months. It starts here and the bold print are my present day comments.